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Are Children Of Divorce Stigmatized When Seeking Mates?

The children of divorce are often stigmatized by potential mates when they begin dating, according to Elizabeth Marquardt, author of the book “Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce,” who wrote a recent column in the Huffington Post.

Children of divorce often were told they were from “broken homes” and treated differently back when divorce was more taboo. But she argues the increasing divorce rate has made them quite ordinary.

Mavis Hetherington, a social scientist who studied the issue, concluded that the grown children of divorce had a higher likelihood of needing their own Atlanta divorce lawyers eventually. She cited social development problems as a recurring theme.

But Elizabeth Marquardt’s column focuses squarely on the perception that grown children of divorced parents aren’t prime marriage candidates:

It appears that public discussion of studies about the “marriageability” of young adults from divorced families is shaping attitudes these young people confront when they enter the dating and marriage market. Far from ending the stigma of divorce, it seems that widespread divorce has merely shifted the stigma onto the next generation.

The author said her soon-to-be-ex step father once told her that her chances for a lasting marriage were slim just because of her own parents’ histories of divorce. She was considering getting hitched at the time so someone she was in love with.

So far she’s defying the odds, or at least the stigma that she is incapable of a lasting marriage. She said she has two well-adjusted children of her own and has been happily married for 14 years. To those who might question the “marriageability” of children of divorce, she had this to say:

We grew up fast and we know how to take care of ourselves. Many of us are, frankly, quite wonderful. Marry us.

But if it doesn’t quite work out, Georgia family law attorneys are there to help. With an estimated 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, just remember that it can happen to the best of us.

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